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Jeff Root
2008-Jul-17, 10:49 AM
I have no problem sincerely saying "thank you" when doing business
or when a stranger helps me with some little thing. But I need to write
a thank-you note to my sister's sister-in-law for giving me the computer
and monitor (used, from her workplace) I'm typing on right now. I have
already put it off because I just don't know what to say. "Thank you"
is a mere two words. It covers the subject but feels totally inadequate.
I want to say more, but without rambling.

Any suggestions as to what to say or ways for me to think or anything?

-- Jeff, in Minneapolis

Tinaa
2008-Jul-17, 11:57 AM
I wrote and make my kids write, thank you notes for gifts. I have sort of a formula. It has been used for wedding and baby showers, graduations, birthdays, etc.

"Thank you so much for the______. I will use it for ______________. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness."

KLIK
2008-Jul-17, 12:09 PM
'I'd just like to say "Thanks very much for....."'
or;
'thanks very much for..., I will make good use of....


But peoples personalities vary. My second one is similar to Tinaa's above but I would feel uncomfortable saying the 'so much' part

Whirlpool
2008-Jul-17, 12:56 PM
'I'd just like to say "Thanks very much for....."'
or;
'thanks very much for..., I will make good use of....


But peoples personalities vary. My second one is similar to Tinaa's above but I would feel uncomfortable saying the 'so much' part

Say what is on your heart .
If it's a simple " Thank You " without elaborating and explaining with the " so much " part makes you comfortable , it's fine.

Those 2 words carries already a lot of words that you wanted to say to your sister-in-law.
Letting her know by saying " Thank You " matters a lot than Not saying anything at all.


:)

Nicolas
2008-Jul-17, 12:59 PM
Alternative: take the indirect approach.

"this thank-you email would not have been possible without the PC you gave me so generously"

Or something similar :)

Swift
2008-Jul-17, 01:16 PM
Say what is on your heart .
If it's a simple " Thank You " without elaborating and explaining with the " so much " part makes you comfortable , it's fine.

Those 2 words carries already a lot of words that you wanted to say to your sister-in-law.
Letting her know by saying " Thank You " matters a lot than Not saying anything at all.


:)
Absolutely. And a written note, even if it only says "Thank you" means a lot more than an e-mail.

Chuck
2008-Jul-17, 01:35 PM
Send thank you notes for much better gifts than the senders actually gave you and then pretend that you mixed up the notes and envelopes. Then they'll all send better gifts next time, trying not to look so cheap.

Argos
2008-Jul-17, 01:52 PM
"Thank you for your kindness. And the more you accept my gratitude the more grateful I am". :)

Jetlack
2008-Jul-17, 02:47 PM
Howabout:

"its not the right one, i need more ram, more hard drive space, a 52 inch flat screen...:)

mugaliens
2008-Jul-17, 04:51 PM
I need to write
a thank-you note to my sister's sister-in-law for giving me the computer
and monitor (used, from her workplace) I'm typing on right now.

Try:

"Hey! Guess what? I'm typing this on the PC and monitor you gave me. They're great! Much better than what I had before.

Thanks!"

jrkeller
2008-Jul-17, 05:04 PM
I wrote and make my kids write, thank you notes for gifts. I have sort of a formula. It has been used for wedding and baby showers, graduations, birthdays, etc.

"Thank you so much for the______. I will use it for ______________. I really appreciate your thoughtfulness."


That's pretty much what I make my kids do too. I even make the oldest one, who has Down Syndrome, write Thank You Notes too.

Neverfly
2008-Jul-17, 05:47 PM
I have no problem sincerely saying "thank you" when doing business
or when a stranger helps me with some little thing. But I need to write
a thank-you note to my sister's sister-in-law for giving me the computer
and monitor (used, from her workplace) I'm typing on right now. I have
already put it off because I just don't know what to say. "Thank you"
is a mere two words. It covers the subject but feels totally inadequate.
I want to say more, but without rambling.

Any suggestions as to what to say or ways for me to think or anything?

-- Jeff, in Minneapolis

I understand exactly what you mean.

Whether it's a "thank You," or "I'm sorry" or even "i hate you for" :p Sometimes the words just seem so inadequate to actually mean much. It seems like saying them is silly.

The only thing you really can do is just say it.

Several others suggested the roundabout way. I have found it works pretty well when thanking someone. It also helps to say it in more than one way, a direct and an indirect way, so that they truly feel appreciated.

One way I can think of for saying it without rambling, but more than two words is to describe why you're thankful and what it means to you. So if you're thanking someone for a computer, you can give three sentences worth quite easily of how it's enabled you to do such and such or continue doing such and such. But on top of that, you can mention how it's indirectly affected you because you didn't need to go computer shopping and could spend the money on drugs and alcohol instead.

Ok wait...

Maybe you should choose something else...:doh:

Nick Theodorakis
2008-Jul-17, 06:39 PM
Send flowers.

Nick

slang
2008-Jul-17, 08:08 PM
"Hey, I know you said you wanted to give this, and you didn't want anything in return, but this XXX is helping me so much! I can now finally do YYY, and ZZZ goes much better, I've waiting for years for that. Thanks {insert name/term of affection}, I really appreciate it, and wanted you to know how happy it made me."

Or flowers. 1-800.... nah.. wrong place for that joke. :)

Jeff Root
2008-Jul-17, 09:07 PM
Your replies are almost as good as I'd hoped, and much better than I'd
expected! They are sure to be helpful! Even some of the joke answers
are relevant. This computer and monitor are just a stopgap until I can
get around to buying a new system. I'm still struggling to figure out just
exactly what I want and what hardware will best satisfy those desires.

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses! I'm sure they will
help me a lot in composing a thank-you note!

And especially, thank you to Neverfly for saying that you understand the
mental outlook which gives rise to my problem. It seems so subtle that I
doubt I could analyze why I feel as I do. I just do, and can't explain it.
And your suggestion to say how it has enabled me to do such-and-such
is perfect. Seems terribly obvious, but I didn't think of it.

Thank you!

-- Jeff, in Minneapolis

Neverfly
2008-Jul-17, 09:11 PM
Your replies are almost as good as I'd hoped, and much better than I'd
expected! They are sure to be helpful! Even some of the joke answers
are relevant. This computer and monitor are just a stopgap until I can
get around to buying a new system. I'm still struggling to figure out just
exactly what I want and what hardware will best satisfy those desires.

Thank you all so much for your thoughtful responses! I'm sure they will
help me a lot in composing a thank-you note!

And especially, thank you to Neverfly for saying that you understand the
mental outlook which gives rise to my problem. It seems so subtle that I
doubt I could analyze why I feel as I do. I just do, and can't explain it.
And your suggestion to say how it has enabled me to do such-and-such
is perfect. Seems terribly obvious, but I didn't think of it.

Thank you!

-- Jeff, in Minneapolis
My irony meter just spiked:neutral:



:p

That was a Great Practice Run Jeff! Now do it again for the person who gave you the computerhttp://us.i1.yimg.com/us.yimg.com/i/mesg/emoticons7/4.gif